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In all relationships with women, Sigma Nus apply
the precepts of Love, Honor and Truth, as we should in everything
we do. They add up to the old-fashioned idea of being a "gentleman."
And what does that mean today? Is it outdated? Sigma Nu says No!
Although modern etiquette may indicate some departures from the
"rules" of the past, being a gentleman today means what
it has always meant: simply a demonstration of one's true feelings
of care and concern, of respect, courtesy and decency. His manners
are outward signs of an inward grace. He treats others as he would
like to be treated. In short, the Golden Rule still abides.
Sigma Nu believes gentlemanly conduct on and
off the campus fosters a positive and enjoyable interaction with
sorority members and other women. Community service, Homecoming,
and other campus projects and activities such as mixers and formals
all promote fun and opportunities for healthy friendships and even
romantic ties. These are well and good, a vital part of social development
of individuals and groups.
But they pose caveats. When does an activity
stop being what it's supposed to be — acceptable as healthy
fun and promoting harmony, goodwill and safety among participants
of the opposite sex? There are danger signals that every Sigma Nu,
mindful always of his commitment to the values inherent in our Creed,
should be aware of and guard against:
Alcohol abuse (it's been said before but it
can't be emphasized enough) is the foremost cause of problems which
occur between men and women. In nearly every instance of sex abuse
or date rape, one or both parties has had too much to drink. Being
inebriated and out-of-control is no excuse for taking advantage
of a woman, even if she has allowed herself to be placed in a vulnerable
position. We believe the honorable thing to do with any date (or
other person's date), or a woman guest or visitor who has had too
much to drink is to see that she is taken home by a responsible
person before harm comes to her. Otherwise, it could become a matter
of a lawsuit, even a criminal case. If one is fully aware beforehand
of the dangers of alcohol consumption, he or she may avoid a serious
social mistake with enormous legal repercussions.
We believe the golden rule is this:
How would we want our mothers, sisters, or fiancees treated in any
given situation? Treat our ladies and acquaintances the same way.

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